9 Tips How To Help Your Child During the Divorce Process

Here are 9 tips on how you can help your child cope with the family transition:

  1. Explain the divorce to the child at his or her level of understanding without placing blame.
  2. Always allow the child to express feelings of hurt, anger, etc.
  3. Reinforce to the child that he or she is not to blame and that both parents will continue to provide love and care for him/her.
  4. Do not carry-on arguments with the other parent in the child’s presence or within his/her hearing.
  5. Allow the child to speak with other children who have experienced divorce.
  6. Seek professional counseling when appropriate.
  7. Do not use the child as a spy between parents’ households.
  8. Encourage contact between the child and the other parent’s extended family, e.g., grandparents, aunts, and uncles.
  9. Do not speak disparagingly of the other parent to the child and do not ask the child to be loyal to only one parent.

One book that I like to share with my divorce clients with minor children is the Dinosaurs Divorce, A Guide for Changing Families by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown. You should check it out!

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